I am receiving calls from clients, asking me if the disappearance of their anxiety or phobia means that things have ‘got better’ for them.
I wanted to talk to you about that for a moment, because it is very true, that a lot of us are experiencing a disappearance of some of our fears and phobias, but does that mean that they are gone forever, and what should we actually be doing about it?
Below are some of the phobias and fears that are currently laying dormant – and I give my advice on what to do about it.
1. Social Anxiety is reduced due to the inability to socialise.
Social anxiety has been reduced in clients who have previously struggled with it as they no longer need to fear having to force themselves to socialise. One client told me that waking each day, knowing that they do not even have to answer the door to the postman has left them feeling free, and mentally secure.
This in ways is great as it gives people with social anxiety a temporary break from their problem, but should this mean that the condition should no longer be treated? I would say that we still need to address things because the relief will only be temporary and will resurface its presence when the limitations of lockdown are lifted.
2. Phobias such as flying and a phobia of crowded spaces are now lying dormant.
It is natural that i as a flying phobia expert, I am experiencing a slump in calls from anxious flyers – nobody is having to face their fear of flying at the moment, because holidays and flights are not in operation. I expect this to continue, along with phobias of things such as the tube, crowded spaces….. whilst people remain indoors, they do not have to face their phobia and are able to temporarily ignore it.
Again I think this freedom of mind is great for the time being but of course, there will come a time when we are again able to travel, and those fears and phobias will resurface. I advise clients to perhaps tackle their phobia from their sofa in the living room, with my Fear of Flying Breakthrough Kit, or the Phobia Breakthrough kit, which can both be found here.
3. Stress levels have been reduced for some people, living situation dependent.
Nor having to go to work, not having to face that morning commute or the stress of heading home during rush hour – for some of us, our stress levels are reducing, whereas for others, working from home and home schooling may mean that we are more stressed than ever!\
If stress has been reduced for you, then enjoy it, but also take note of the things that you perhaps would like to change, when lockdown is lifted. For example, if the commute to work is what causes stress for you, you might want to think about a different mode of travel. Or, if your job is the thing that causes stress for you, you might want to rethink your career.
If you are one of the unlucky people for whom stress still continues then do check out my INSTANTLY CALM TOOL KIT as it has some advice and an audio that you can use today, and it will leave you feeling confidently calm in no time.
So there we have it – lockdown may be easing some problems, but don’t take your eye off the ball – use this time to tackle that fear, anxiety or phobia and when lockdown is lifted, you will be free in every sense of the word, to enjoy your life again!
and let’s talk about how I can help you.
In the meantime, enjoy this time where possible, stay safe, and I will speak to you next week.