It’s International Stammering Awareness Day today. I wanted to talk to you about how to cope with stammering, or any sort of issue for that matter, that leads you to feel anxious when it comes to speaking. Grab a cuppa, get comfortable, and enjoy.
And if YOU or anyone that you know, happens to have a stammer and would like to talk to me about it, please feel free to start by booking a free clarity call here.
1. Is your fear of stammering causing you to stammer?
A stammer can occur for several reasons. One could be that you stammered at some point in your life, were totally mortified by it, and from then onwards, have had a subconscious fear of it ever happening again. As a result, your fear of stammering has become such an issue for you that you find yourself starting to stammer…. nerves, anxiety etc can trigger a stammer. So what can you do if your fear of stammering is causing a stammer? Hypnotherapy can work well and enables me to direct your subconscious mind to STOP repeating this behaviour. Book a clarity call with me and we can see if this is the suitable course of action for you.
2. Why do you stammer? Do you even know yet?
A stammer can occur because of something like what I mentioned above – it can also occur because of social anxiety, nerves, fear of the unknown, as a result of a trigger of something else going on inside of you and the stammer is a symptom of that.
Finding out why a stammer is occuring for you, can be an effective way to then deal with it, because if there is a memory or an event for example, on a subconscious level that perhaps was the trigger for you, then it is something that we can deal with.
3. Arm yourself with techniques that will help you control your stammer.
Often, worry about stammering can make the issue worse, but speaking slower, and taking your time, has been shown to be effective in helping people who have a stammer to control them. Do some mindfulness breahing exercises before you go to a social event, so that you are in a place of calm – this is very powerful.
Then, if you feel confident enough to do so, tell people who you will be speaking to that you have a stammer – by putting it out there, you disempower the fear of it actually happening, and often you will find that once you are more in control of things, the stammer stops appearing.
There is no reason as to why a stammer or a stutter should be seen as something that is ‘wrong’ or embarassing. If people around you are not supportive of it, then it might be time to choose a new social circle. The world can be cruel in regards to things that make us different, but you don’t have to buy into that. Stand tall, and own your stammer. Try and find out where it stems from and take conscious steps to work on it.
IF YOU OR SOMEBODY THAT YOU KNOW HAS A STAMMER AND YOU WOULD LIKE TO TALK TO ME ABOUT IT, DON’T FORGET THAT YOU CAN BOOK A FREE CLARITY CALL WITH ME TO DISCUSS WHAT IS GOING ON FOR YOU, SO THAT WE CAN LOOK AT GETTING TO THE BOTTOM OF IT.
Until the next time, have a great week!
Christopher Paul Jones.