Are you dreading saying goodbye to summer,because you fear the arrival of Autumn and Winter?
I get it. I do. I mean, it’s been a lovely summer hasn’t it….
But lately, despite there being some sunny days, I have noticed that there is a bit of a nip in the air again… in fact, last week I actually put the heating on! It pains me to say that – but really… I did!
For some us, like my friend Angela, we LOVE the arrival of Autumn. That crisp air, the falling of leaves as they turn brown around the edges … and the arrival of the Costa Autumn menu (other coffee shops are of course available). I do love, I have to admit, to sit with a nice Spicy Hot Chocolate, after a brisk walk with my dog Lexi. There’s something so… refreshing about Autumn.
But – for others, the tiniest hint of the arrival of Autumn, sends shivers down their spines, and sets their pulses racing. Why is this? Well, because Autumn triggers off all kinds of PHOBIAS….
From Halloween, to Bonfire Night, it’s that time of year again – where I am inundated with clients wanting to be treated for phobias.
So, what can you do, if you are in the group of people that I am talking about, and you actually dread the arrival of Autumn?
Here is my advice:
1. Accept that you have a fear/anxiety about this time of year. But do you have a Phobia?
The first thing to do is to accept that this time of years brings up fear in you. Then just sit with that feeling for a moment. What exactly about this time of year is it that scares you? Write it down. Then ask yourself, is your fear based on logic? Chances are that it probably isn’t. Therefore, smile. You have a phobia. And the good news is that they can be treated!
2. Talk to those around you and get a support network.
Tell your friends and family how this time of year affects you. Don’t just hide away. Chances are, the more you become antisocial the more ‘low in mood’ that you will start to feel. This time of year can often signal the begining of a dip in mood for people. So face your fears head on. Be open about what is going on for you and then tell those around you that you are going to tackle your issue. Accountability will keep you focused, and give you the motivation to push forwards.
3. Tackle your fear or phobia with ‘attitude’,
Don’t allow yourself to become a Victim of your fear. Take the attitude that this will be the last year that the darker nights will get the better of you. Make an active choice to get to grips with your phobia. Book in to speak to a therapist, in fact, why not book your free clarity call with me and let’s have a chat about things. Phobias are totally treatable, if you really get to the root cause of things.
But in the meantime, here is a quick technique that I have put together for you, to help you take control of your emotional response to things. A phobia is not based on logic, therefore, feelings that you will be feeling, are illogical. Talking about them may not be the answer here.
Close your eyes. Allow yourself to picture the scene, that most scares you. You know the one that I am talking about here. Really let yourself be part of that scene. Notice, the sounds, the smells.. who or what is around you. And become aware now, of this scene affects you in your body. How do you feel? Do you have tightening anywhere? Next, let this scene turn to autumnal colours, brown, rust, black…. and just like the leaves of the trees in Autumn, let that scene fall to the ground now… Just watch it as it falls to the ground. Notice how you feel now.
You can do this anytime and anyplace, and what this does for you, is changes your physical disposition, so that you don’t feel the emotional and physical responses to things as intensley, you put yourself back in the drivers seat, you are able to get a hold on your emotions and your experience, whilst you book that appointment to see a phobia therapist.
Until the next time,here’s to Autumn and all of the lovely things that come with it
Chrostopher Paul Jones, the Breakthrough Expert.